Being loved means that everything that you do and say is different. You walk taller, you talk easier, you give more freely. This change in you, changes what people see in you. When people see your smiles, your confidence, your comfort, they like you more and spend more time around you. This can affect everything: getting a job, getting a client and getting a promotion. This can affect whether people cooperate with you or do not. Cooperation may seem small within an incident, but over time, it can change the way you live your life.
There is no way to earn love, you will be loved or not. Love has a life of its own. Parents fall instantly and ridiculously in love with their offspring. You may meet someone who spontaneously inspires love in you. You will love your parents – like it or not. You will not always love good people. Your love will not always be rewarded or reciprocated. In many instances, love happens to us, we don’t know what happened and suddenly the love is there, engulfing and enfolding us.
Being loved gives us strength when we doubt, gives us confidence when we fear. No matter what happens to us, if we know that we are loved, love gives us strength to endure, to survive, to thrive. How many times did I tell myself while living alone in a far-away city “I must stay safe, my mother would be unhappy if I was hurt”?
You may not be able to earn love, but being loving is the best way to find yourself loved by another. For some reason, loving others, draws love to you. When you decide to love, it flips a switch in your perception of the other. Suddenly, the spoiled behavior becomes understandable; the angry behavior is obviously hurt and not meanness.
This is why being loved is so wonderful, because you know in your soul that whatever you do, no matter how harsh and ugly you may be, the love remains steadfast and clear and true.