Love and Relationships

Choice is an Event That Must Be Maintained

In our lifetimes, we do not make that one choice and then that is it.  Wish that it were, but life is not that simple.  As an example, marriage is an ongoing choice that you must maintain in order for the marriage to be successful.  It is not enough to choose your mate and then proceed to the big public event called wedding, you must also then continue to choose your mate long after the ceremony is over.  If you are lying to your partner, then you are NOT choosing your mate, you are choosing something / someone else.  Marriage is a relationship that fails with dishonesty.  If you are abusive towards your partner, again, you are not choosing your mate, you are choosing something else, because the relationship will fail in the face of abusive practice.  It is a moment by moment opportunity, you can change your choice in the next moment and end your relationship, if that is your choice.

Choosing to be healthy is like that.  On January First you may choose to be healthy and lose weight, however, you must re-choose to be healthy every single day, 3 or 4 or even 10 times per day.  This is the difficulty with choosing, many people do not understand that the first choice is only the beginning and there will be many challenges to success.  Challenges will take many forms; often, when your commitment is to yourself, then the challenge will come FROM you.  Being successful requires us to continue to re-choose our commitments.  Sometimes that means that we must work with our own contrary nature, or our own analytic efforts at distraction or destruction.  Make no mistake, in order to be successful in our commitment, we must re-choose, over and over again.

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