Powerlessness in a Relationship

How do you live inside of a relationship where you have no power?  You didn’t know it was going to be that way.  But you find yourself dealing with the same issues over and over again – issues caused by your partner – issues that you wish would change, but nothing ever changes?

You try negotiation, you try discussion, but always you are back to the drawing board in an emotionally draining struggle where you cannot get your needs met.  Eventually, you resent (how could you not?) your partner seems to be non-responsive to your requests.  Eventually you feel diminished and dismissed by the relationship as the hurts pile up and then go un-attended as your partner fights and defends that which will not change.

Then all of being-in-love becomes a questionable state of mind because being in love brings on having to deal with another, who, maybe is not-so-much in love, or at least not-so-much sensitive & caring.  Then the torment of indecision parks in your brain and you begin to wonder if you will always make mistakes about loving and partnering and who you are willing to be with.

Not Good.