• Love and Relationships,  Personal Growth

    Resentment – the result of suffering a hurt that is not remedied.

    noun

    noun: resentment; plural noun: resentments

    1. bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly.

    “his resentment at being demoted”

    synonyms: bitterness, indignation, irritation, pique, dissatisfaction, disgruntlement, discontentment, discontent, resentfulness, bad feelings, hard feelings, ill will, acrimony, rancor, animosity, jaundice

    In the matter of two people having a discussion and a third person observes, judgment arises – of course – by all three.

    In the matter of two people who are working through differences, if the third person judges person A negatively – in other words, giving advice about improving one’s speech or character, you know immediately that such person sides with person B in the discussion.  Observer finds fault with the one that they do not agree with.

    Life follows this path of finding fault with those we do not agree with and even to a further extent, we find fault with those we do not like.  In this sense, if I do not like you, there is nothing that you can do to be correct.  You are wrong, you are a wrong person and that is all there is to it.

    On the other hand, if I like you, then you are right (and never to be corrected) and that is all there is to it.

    This kind of thinking only serves us in the case of new true love.  Otherwise, this thinking is dangerous for everyone.  It makes us blind to the truth of each other’s behavior and thus escalates bad behavior.

    Bad behavior lives in the dark and thrives when not confronted.  Any kind of acceptance of bad behavior helps that behavior to grow.

    Winter

    Back to the beginning of this article, be aware what your comments and your judgments reveal about you and your opinion.  Be aware when you are allowing bad behavior and encouraging the behavior to continue.  Rose colored glasses are not for an enduring and real relationship.

  • Economic Equality (A Goal),  Womens Issues,  World Affairs

    The Day After 11/6/18

    As agonizing as the fear was on election day (yesterday) I am feeling energized today.  I’ve spent more than my usual time online recently.  When I saw who was winning elections all over the country, I became hopeful.  Yes, yes, I am a Democrat, and Gosh forbid, I am also a “liberal”.  I don’t know where those labels come from, but I do believe in equality for everyone.  I ardently believe in economic equality.  I believe in truth, honesty and respect.  I believe everyone in the world has a right to health care.  So, there you are, “liberal”.

    I believe that legislators should have the decency to be objective about the fairness of laws, rather than making laws based on payments from whomever can afford them.  I believe it should be illegal for corporations to use their massive economic power to change laws and bend them to fit their own profitability goals.  An example of this is our embarrassingly low minimum wage here in the USA.  This low minimum wage is a direct result of legislators bending to the will of mega corporations such as MacDonald’s and Walmart.  These mega-corporations often finance campaigns and use other such bribery weapons in order to gain a legalized economic advantage.

    With rain comes growth.
    With rain comes growth

    Ah, but!  Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez won, she won!  How fantastic is that?  From what I am seeing and who I am meeting, I am very impressed with millennials.  I am impressed with all of the younger generations, no matter the label.  Young people seem smart and even better, caring.  The young people I meet and spend time with, the ones I read about, seem to care very much about our world.  They seem to care very much for others.  That seems to be the key to human salvation: do we care about each other?  If we care about each other, we will find a way to ensure that all Americans are cared for.  The best place to start this is through our system of government.

    I am hopeful.  The women who won these races are diverse and will bring a new conversation to the legislative table.  This new conversation cannot be ignored because it has become too loud.  Thank God for these brave women.  Thank God for democracy.

    And lest we think the job is done, here are the words of Barack Obama:  “Our work goes on. The change we need won’t come from one election alone – but it is a start. Last night, voters across the country started it. And I’m hopeful that going forward, we’ll begin a return to the values we expect in our public life – honesty, decency, compromise, and standing up for one another as Americans, not separated by our differences, but bound together by one common creed.”