noun
noun: resentment; plural noun: resentments
- bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly.
“his resentment at being demoted”
| synonyms: | bitterness, indignation, irritation, pique, dissatisfaction, disgruntlement, discontentment, discontent, resentfulness, bad feelings, hard feelings, ill will, acrimony, rancor, animosity, jaundice |
In the matter of two people having a discussion and a third person observes, judgment arises – of course – by all three.
In the matter of two people who are working through differences, if the third person judges person A negatively – in other words, giving advice about improving one’s speech or character, you know immediately that such person sides with person B in the discussion. Observer finds fault with the one that they do not agree with.
Life follows this path of finding fault with those we do not agree with and even to a further extent, we find fault with those we do not like. In this sense, if I do not like you, there is nothing that you can do to be correct. You are wrong, you are a wrong person and that is all there is to it.
On the other hand, if I like you, then you are right (and never to be corrected) and that is all there is to it.
This kind of thinking only serves us in the case of new true love. Otherwise, this thinking is dangerous for everyone. It makes us blind to the truth of each other’s behavior and thus escalates bad behavior.
Bad behavior lives in the dark and thrives when not confronted. Any kind of acceptance of bad behavior helps that behavior to grow.
Back to the beginning of this article, be aware what your comments and your judgments reveal about you and your opinion. Be aware when you are allowing bad behavior and encouraging the behavior to continue. Rose colored glasses are not for an enduring and real relationship.
