I think we need to sort things out first. I think we need to talk about denial and wishful thinking and all kinds of concepts like this. Reality and how you experience reality must include genuineness and authenticity, and these are conversations. When I talk about the woman I know, who denied the reality of her family, there is much deceit and secrecy abounding in those relationships. I think this is the key to genuineness and authenticity: they are part of the conversation that we all must have to define our common reality. The key concept is conversation, because, the truth should not be a secret that lives in the dark. When reality is practiced in secret and in the dark, it can become a pack of lies.
Experiencing Reality
Here I am once again and I must write. We listened to Deepak Chopra Sunday night and it was quite good. Reality and how you experience reality is a choice. Last night, as we discussed this concept I told Bruce the story of a woman that I know who pretended that she had a great and wonderful family. She would lie and contrive and even take fantastically staged photographs of her fantastic family. The truth of her family is that her husband had sex with their daughter when she was a teen and then decades later he had sex with his granddaughter. This woman would never admit to such atrocities and in this situation, these were the worst of the bad things. Every single day was a challenge into the truth, this woman faithfully pretended that her drug addicted son was just going through a rough patch (of 24 years until he died) and that her sons who were fathers, were very good fathers and look at these pictures of how good they were to their children! The unsuspecting by-stander who looked at her photo album would be lulled into a sense that this is a happy family who took care of their own. Lies, lies, lies, and yet all her reality. The new gurus tell us to make our own reality, and I am just not sure about this.