It is as if their failing is somehow your fault. Interesting. Not “failing” as in weakness or shortcoming, but failing as in lack – how do you neutralize inability, indifference or unwillingness?
You cannot neutralize the word “fail” for others, of course. However, do not change yourself because others cannot be happy with who you are or what you want. If you want something and they are angry with you about it, do not take it personally. You are not a bad person because you want something that you cannot have or because you want something that is difficult to gain.