So often, the brain wants to replay the offending incidents or conversations over and over again. Sometimes, these replays are truly damaging because they can bring about the same emotions and reactions again. To replay them is to indulge the pain of the original moment.
Take care of yourself by moving on. Get past the original moment; get past the original emotion. When you are having trouble doing this, tell yourself that what you need is the future, not the past. The best way to get to that future is by leaving the weight of the past behind you. This may be difficult to do. You may not be able to banish your specific nightmare easily – and yet that does not mean that it cannot be done. Redirect your mind to the task at hand. Be stern with yourself, as stern as you would be with a recalcitrant child. Once you have completed the task with one incident, do not allow that event to crowd your consciousness again. Go on to the next event or incident and follow the same thinking technique.
Your entire way of thinking may have to change. You may identify yourself so strongly with your past and those wretched events that happened to you, that you may feel overwhelmed by the idea of changing. If you do, you may have to go slowly, be aware that your brain may try to sway you into not changing. It is up to you. Decide to go forward, or not.
