Your position gives you the power to keep me silent while you rage about all that I am lacking in.
Because you have that power doesn’t mean that you are correct in any way. You only use your status and power to make yourself right. I’m not understanding what you gain with your superiority complex.
You do what’s called “Monday Morning quarterbacking”: Retrospectively reviewing events so that you can make a better decision sometime in the future, about my past decisions.
I have to tell you that there are others who are experts at finding my faults. I’ve had a sibling, a supervisor and a husband who were always ready to explain to me how wrong and mistaken I am.
You are not even the best at pointing out my flaws and second guessing my past decisions. You are not the best at telling me how mistaken and wrong I am.
You are the same in one way as the others, you have come into my life and you will go away from my life. I cannot have an enduring relationship with one who has no use in listening to me. I cannot have a long term relationship with one who cannot and will not validate me. I cannot have a relationship with you.
https://medium.com/personal-growth/annie-duke-how-to-make-decisions-like-a-professional-poker-player-24686d4442ac
“Having skin in the game changes everything. It’s easy to make decisions when you’re not the one affected. It’s even easier to have opinions and let everyone know about them. But when the stakes are high — when something is on the line — that forces you to make sure you get things right.”
“You don’t always get the outcome you want even when you make the best decision. Even if you get a positive outcome, it’s difficult to tell if you deserve credit. There’s a double layer of complexity.
In many ways, life is one long poker game. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. All we can do is learn to be comfortable with uncertainty and keep making good bets.
Do that, and we’ll come out ahead in the long run.”
