• Personal Growth

    Am I going to forget something? And if I do, what’s the worst that can happen?

    I get so tense, I write some lists 2 or 3 times.  I am so worried that I will forget something that I literally duplicate my efforts to remember.  I am beginning to wonder what I am afraid of?  There has never been a time in my life where a loss of memorizing a grocery item would cause a life changing emergency.  So I am afraid of something, and I am not sure what it is.

    This has caused me to begin letting things go.  So if I forget something, what is going to happen, will it matter, will anyone care?  So I think that remembering things is an effort and that effort should matter.  Which then leads me to the conclusion that if the effort does not matter, I should not make the effort.

    This is a freeing concept.  If my effort will not matter, then I will not make an effort.  I am now allowed to put my efforts exclusively towards things that matter.  I can still make grocery lists, but the idea of getting tense because of a grocery list – is not present.

    Leaving the mundane to the mundane is an excellent concept.  Drama belongs to things that matter, not to the mundane.

     

  • Economic Equality (A Goal),  Philosophy,  Spirituality,  World Affairs

    The Bible says…

    First, I wish folks would remember that the Bible was written by a bunch of old Jewish guys.  There is nothing wrong with old Jewish guys, but everyone would agree that old Jewish guys have a certain perspective.

    Second, I wish folks would remember that the Bible was constructed by a bunch of old Catholic guys.  It was constructed to carefully deconstruct female power and human empowerment.  The point of the Bible as we know it was to interpret on behalf of the priests’ supremacy and power.  The old Catholic priests concerned with constructing the Bible discarded any gospel written by a woman.  Some of those narrations were lost to us forever and some were discovered centuries later.

    The Bible was NOT handed down by God.  The ten commandments were handed down by God and certainly the Sermon on the Mount, the Lord’s Prayer and the Beatitudes were authored by Jesus Christ* – but the rest of it is a random selection of stories much like Aesop’s Fables.

    If you believe in something, better not to say “The Bible says…”, better to say “This is what I most fervently believe.”  Try to be realistic and realize that your perspective is only your own.  You cannot define reality just by saying “The Bible says…” otherwise, all you are really doing is agreeing with a bunch of old Jewish and Catholic guys, who basically wanted to rule the world.

    *I’m sure there are other works authored by Jesus Christ.

  • Baby Boomers,  Economic Equality (A Goal)

    Why Support Poverty in Others?

    Poverty – Madness

    I have talked with several people, non-republican middle class folks who don’t believe the minimum wage should be increased to $15.00 per hour.  They made deprecating comments about how fast-food workers are not educated, why should they deserve $15.00 an hour?  Who will do the ‘crappy’ jobs? -they ask me.  Or they say, hamburgers will be $5.00…

    I am so shocked and flabbergasted, I don’t even know where to begin.

    So many millionaires have made their money through nefarious and illegal means.  The average American can now say that they have been swindled by a mortgage loan officer or a Pension/401K manager.  Let’s not even start on the profits made by those who own Walmart (I am sure that Sam Walton is in hell, who can perfect the perfect torture of backbreaking poverty, without going to hell?) Sam Walton systematically took advantage of poor undereducated people by withholding health insurance and proper benefits for full time workers (if not him, then his management staff).

    We have twisted a perfectly good system that existed within the loose boundaries of capitalism and we have turned it into a system of royalty over feudalism.  You can only make money if you already have some and God bless you if you have no money.

    I think that each and every one of us should give good will to everyone.  Why withhold support from fast food workers?  They don’t deserve it because they haven’t been to advanced schooling?  That’s ridiculous, we all know that ‘deserving’ has nothing to do with the acquisition of money.  We all know that.

    The meanest, nastiest, lying, cheating thieves have billions of dollars – deserving has nothing to do with actually having money.

    What will it cost you personally to support a poverty stricken full time worker to earn $15.00 per hour?  You already support the billionaires who cheat us, why not support people who actually work for a living?

  • Baby Boomers,  Personal Growth

    Your Opinion Does Not Bother Me

    What bothers me is that you think your opinion is “the” opinion.  You are unaware of your arrogance and your ethnocentricity.  You actually believe that you think for everyone – but of course – you believe that you think correctly.

    How mistaken you are.  Your opinion is only idiosyncratic, in other words, it is your opinion and only yours.  What offends me is that you assert your opinion importantly, as if everyone must believe the same thing that you believe.  Of course, they do not.  Your spectrum of the universe is admittedly limited, in fact, you would know, after investigation, that your spectrum of the universe is extremely limited.  Your perspective is not only limited but very limited.  So, give up, you know nothing.  What you know is about your life, there are more than six billion lives on this planet.  Give up.

  • Economy of Effort

    This Not That

    Think This:

    I am so glad that I am healthy enough to exercise.  I am able to walk without pain.  I enjoy fresh air and I can breath deeply.  By exercising, I know that I will be able to be a great grandmother.  I dearly want to live to be a great grandmother.

    I can feel my body stretch, it’s like the atoms are alive in my muscles, they tingle.

    Not That:

    I am so tired, I don’t want to move.  I don’t want to get up and I especially don’t want to walk over there, it looks far away.  My muscles are sore and I don’t want to be sore.

  • Economy of Effort

    This Not That…

    Think This:

    This morning is beautiful, the weather is dry and it’s not hot yet.  It’s only Tuesday, so I have lots of time to get the work done that I want to get done this week.  I’m excited at the thought of accomplishment!

    Not That:

    It’s only Tuesday and I am already exhausted, how will I make it through this week?
  • Baby Boomers,  Speaking as a Parent

    Bridge of Tears

     

     

    In Ireland, there is a place called the Bridge of Tears, it is named because for more than a hundred years, when family members decided to go to America, the entire family would escort them as far as possible and here on the Bridge of Tears the families would separate.  Family members going on to America would leave their beloved families to travel onward, who then returned home.  The bridge was named to reflect the experience of the families, who often knew that they would never again see their loved ones.

    Five years ago, when my family and I drove my daughter to Virginia with her queen size bed roped to the top of the Yukon, I believed we were going on a temporary mission.  As often happens with single parents, we make our world revolve around our children.  We have to, rarely do couple relationships become serious when your baggage include 3+ kids, particularly if they are teenagers.

    Since that time, my family has changed significantly, we all tried moving to Virginia and that did not work out.  I even got married to the most fantastic man I have ever met.

    It wasn’t until this week that I realized that with all of those familial changes, I still have not left the Bridge of Tears.  As my daughters and I tried to plan this year where we could see each other and I felt rejected by their responses, I realized that I still stand by the Bridge waiting for them to change their minds and return from their destinations.

    I have not left the Bridge of Tears because I am afraid if I do, the mere act of leaving the Bridge will mean that I have truly lost them.  I am afraid I will not be there to welcome them home, I will not be there to guide their way back.  I lament what cruel twist of fate would take them from me for so long.  But it is not to be.

    My daughters make their own homes now, they make homes for their own children, they do not return to me or the childhood of yesterday.  What I realize that I must do today is, I must leave the Bridge of Tears.  I must make a new life.  I must learn to make a new home, I am very lucky and – by the best twist of fate – I have someone showing the way – my husband.

     

     

  • Philosophy

    Live Well, Laugh Often, and Love Much

    He has achieved success who has lived well, laughed often, and loved much; who has enjoyed the trust of pure women, the respect of intelligent men and the love of little children; who has filled his niche and accomplished his task; who has left the world better than he found it, whether an improved poppy, a perfect poem, or a rescued soul; who has always looked for the best in others and given them the best he had; whose life was an inspiration; whose memory a benediction.

    Written by Bessie A. Stanley and published in 1911.

    Reworded for Emerson’s quote:

    To laugh often and much; To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.

    It doesn’t surprise me that people keep attributing this work to a man, when it originally came from a woman.  When I was in school, I wrote a paper about the idolatry of male artists, while female artists are often ignored by history.  I just wanted to acknowledge Bessie A. Stanley for her enduringly positive philosophy.

  • Economic Equality (A Goal),  World Affairs

    Economic Equality – Not Yet

    I was having a conversation with an acquaintance of mine and it seemed to be a repeat of many other conversations wherein I discovered that I do not adhere to the popular belief and that the conclusions I draw about our world are not so much the conclusions that other people draw.

    I have witnessed so much economic inequality in this world, that I have drawn the conclusion that every opportunity that one has to improve another’s economy should be taken.  As a boss in today’s corporate world, I have done everything in my power to assure that each and every staff member benefits from my belief system about this.  There is no reason to be loyal to a corporation or an institution, there is every reason to be loyal to people.  I realize that shareholders in large corporations would not agree with this.  Witness, the latest McDonald’s debacle: staff who make minimum wage have been cheated out of overtime hours by supervisors who are loyal to McDonald’s the corporation.  This has resulted in a One BILLION dollar profit for McDonald’s shareholders.

    On the other side of the coin are the millions of hard working people that work in the fast food industry (including 10s of thousands of single parents) who are suffering through poverty.  These human beings often do not know if they will have enough money to pay the electric bill, often, they do not have their own space, but rent rooms or tiny efficiencies from others.

    When I speak with people, they refer to some esoteric belief that somehow, the universe is just, they use words like karma and “if it’s meant to be, it will be” to indicate that there is some fairness in the universe and we just have to wait to see it happen.

    I believe that it is possible that the universe is just – I just do not believe that human beings are just.  The wealthy – all over the world – have proven for several thousand years that once they gain wealth, they will stop at nothing to keep gathering the wealth and to push other people down in order to gain more of their own wealth.

    In America, we say that we are the land of the opportunity and that if you cannot build your own success then maybe you have not worked hard enough or you have not done enough in order to properly earn success.  I do not believe that this is true and I find it extremely difficult to believe that anyone can still believe this ridiculous lie after all that has happened in America in the last decade.

    Foolish, mean, ugly, cheating, lazy people can be quite wealthy.  I know people who have never worked, nor thought about working, one day in their own lives, and they own vast amounts of wealth.  There are many, many people who are very, very wealthy who are guilty of terrible sins and there are many, many people who are wealthy and who gained that wealth by cheating from others (for example, McDonald’s shareholders).

    My conclusion is that there is not justice living in this world unless humans apply it.  Karma and Jesus may save us, but that is not for this life.  For this life, we must find ways to save each other.