Love and Relationships

Unconditional Love

Patricia Cornwell writes and I quote: “You really can’t love unconditionally.  People can burn and beat love out of you.  They really can kill it, and it’s not your fault you don’t feel it anymore, and how liberating it is to finally realize that.”

And I agree with that, I really agree with all of that.  Yet, it is incomplete.  My experience has been that there have been times when I have loved unconditionally, had my love beaten and bludgeoned, and the love remains.  So, what I find is that I must separate myself from this person, who does not receive and does not understand my love.  So, I end up loving from afar and faithfully, committedly keeping the toxicity away from myself.  Sometimes, it all comes down to discipline.  Just because I love you does not mean that I must take care of you, feed you, make love to you, or even be in your presence.  Love just does not mean that.  Love is an emotion, and while it is a powerful provocateur, love is not action.  Action comes from decision.

 

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